The Marriage Code – #101

DON’T EVER TRY PUTTING ASUNDER WHAT THE DIVINE HAS PUT TOGETHER.

Genesis 2:18-25 describes how the first marriage was established under divine guidance. Notably, no bride price was involved, raising questions about the origins of this practice. The woman was taken from the man, symbolizing their unity as one.

Fast forward to Matthew 19:3-9, where Jesus addresses questions from the Pharisees about divorce. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” Essentially, they were questioning if it’s right to divide what God has joined together. Jesus responded by affirming that God created them male and female to become one flesh, emphasizing that no one should divide what God has united.

The term asunder means to tear apart or divide. In this context, Jesus asserts that what God has joined together should not be torn apart, whether the division comes from within the marriage or from external forces.

Here are four ways to put asunder what God has joined together:

Don’t Marry for the Wrong Reasons or the Wrong Person: Many enter marriage for societal pressure, material gain, or fame, often despite incompatibility. Marrying for these reasons is already setting the stage for potential failure before the marriage truly begins.

Avoid Romantic Involvement with a Married Person: Engaging with someone who is married is a significant violation, whether you are pursuing or being pursued. This can lead to infidelity, a major cause of marital breakdowns. Infidelity often starts innocently but can escalate into serious problems.

Refrain from Undue Interference: Pastors, in-laws, and friends should avoid interfering in others’ marriages. Every marriage has its dynamics, and undue interference can contribute to its breakdown. Respect the privacy and unique aspects of each couple’s relationship unless invited to help.

Avoid Any Form of Abuse: Abuse, whether physical, emotional, psychological, or sexual, is a grave offence. It involves cruel treatment and can severely harm a marriage. Recognize and address any form of mistreatment to avoid tearing apart the marital bond.

Remember, what God has put together, let no man or woman put asunder. Reflect on your actions and words to ensure you are not contributing to the breakdown of this sacred union.
Repent if necessary to avoid incurring divine displeasure.